Asking A Girl Out

Finding the best way on how to ask a girl out can really be nerve-wracking for many guys especially if you’re doing it for the first time. Although asking a girl out can be very frightening, it should not be the case. In fact, asking a girl out should be easy as long as you understand a few basics about women.

If you don’t want rejection, a surefire way to avoid it is to make sure the girl likes you even before you ask her out. Once you have established that the girl likes you, you can then ask her out.

So how do you know if she’s attracted to you?

From now on, I’d like you to really engage in this reading because I’ll be very detailed. But here’s the overview: Show some specific traits and she will naturally show some signs. Okay, let’s begin…

Types of Men Women Go Out With

Girls really like to chase. Girls like to go out with guys they think are a challenge. In fact this is the main reason why many girls end up dating ‘bad boys’. So always try to be a challenge to a girl so that she stays interested. It will be a lot easier when you ask her out. So before you think of asking a girl out, commit yourself to creating an attraction between you and her.

There are 3 types of men when it comes to this: nice guys, jerks, and alpha males (arranged in order).

• The Nice Guys (The Beta Males)

This is the “friend-type” of women. This is the guy who fulfills all the “friendly” desires of the woman he likes like driving for her, letting her cry on his shoulder, etc. But she does not end up attracted to him. Instead, he sort of just becomes her gay-friend.

• Jerks (The ‘Bad Boys’)

Now, this one attracts many women. Problem is, these women really have personality problems – they like being disrespected by these jerks. They like being cheated, battered, and violated… not the kind of women you would want to go out with either.

• Alpha Males (The ‘Leaders’)

This one REALLY attracts many women. Girls really dig alpha males – they drool over them. Alpha males don’t have to become jerks to attract women. They have this atmosphere of confidence that make women feel that HE IS THE CATCH and not them! They are not just leaders. They lead in some special way that just naturally attracts women to them.

So back to the question: “how do you know if she’s attracted to you?” Well, answer this first: “which are you among the three?

Of course, it’s obvious, in order to attract the “good kind of women,” you have to display alpha male traits. No, not only “display”. You have to BE an alpha male. And when she’s already attracted to you, she will naturally show her signs of attraction.

Alpha males are interesting people. Women take interest in them because they ARE interesting.

Well, you may still attract women even if you’re not an alpha. But again, women love the chase. If you’re too beta, she may be attracted to you at first but she’ll find you boring later, would label you only as her “friend”, and would want somebody else to chase. If you’re too jerk, she may get tired of it sooner or later. Be an alpha. Women stick to alpha males all their lives. This is true to all of the animal kingdom.

Okay, let’s proceed to mistakes that men commit…

Mistakes When Asking A Girl Out On A First Date

• Buying gifts or favors for the girl

This is MISTAKE NUMBER ONE. In fact, you can forget all the others if you avoid this. This mistake shows that you’re very beta. That you’re all out for her. Beta males do this because they think they need to earn women’s approval. Alpha males only buy gifts or favors for a woman only when she earns it.

• Asking her out to the movies or dinner

These places are not particularly good on the first date. They tend to be too formal and may end up putting way too much pressure on her. It also suggests that you are showing her too much interest (a beta-male trait). It would be better to take her to these places when you have finally made her yours.

A “coffee break” is a better choice than dinner in this stage.

• Appearing too eager to take her out

This one is another major mistake. Remember, all girls love a challenge (an alpha-male trait) and you should not show that you’re already in love before you even go out with her on your first date. If you do that, you will blow your chances. Also, don’t show too much emotion if she does or does not agree to go out with you.

• Asking direct questions like “would you go out with me?”

You see, sometimes guys are so nervous about asking a girl out such that they become vague in order to avoid an outright rejection. Don’t make it easy for her to avoid going out with you by asking direct questions like these.

So what are the steps one should take when asking a girl out? Well, asking a girl out should not be such a difficult task for you provided you follow a few simple steps. You must play by a few rules and avoid making mistakes that can spoil your chances of asking her out.

Steps On How To Ask A Girl Out

• Engage in an interesting conversation with her

When you see a girl you really like, approach her. You can start with a simple “Hi” or “Hey”. When you begin that conversation you can ask her a few questions or compliment her (do not flatter her). It can be frightening, but at the same time it can really be simple.

When complimenting, try something like this: “You seem to be good at blah blah (depends on her area of interest that you really think she’s good at). Tell me how you do it.” Here, you are really complimenting her in the first line. The follow-up line is something you say so that she won’t say “No, not really.” Women say that because they tend to refuse compliments. But when you say that kind of follow-up line, she’ll be challenged to prove it to you… that she deserves the compliment.

Flirt with her a little, crack a few jokes, and subtly touch her a bit.

• Look for chances when you could ask her to go out

Make sure you gauge her interest in you. Does she make eye contact with you? Does she smile, laugh, or have a good time while talking to you? If so, then you are lucky. While talking with her pay attention to her body language and do not stare at her, especially at her chest. Remember, you have to be at your best when you try asking a girl out. You don’t want her to think you’re low status of some sort.

• Ask her out

When you feel the time is right, ask her out. Well, do not actually ask her directly if she would like to go out with you. Instead, tell her you want to take her out and show her that she is going to have a good time.

Go with casual lines like: “I know of this place about blah blah (depends on her interest related to your conversation)… I go there at times. Wanna go with me there?”

Convince her instead of begging her to go out with you. And make asking her out less of a big deal by making it seem casual. It will surely keep her on her toes.

• Go out with her

When she says yes, maintain the kind of interesting conversation you’re having. Make sure you let her show you her best self.

In all your conversations with her, please do not brag. Don’t one-up yourself but also don’t put yourself down. And don’t put other people down. These traits show low status. They are a major turn-off for women.

When asking a girl out, if she rejects your offer, keep your cool. Respond gracefully to her turning you down and show her it doesn’t bother you. You can say to her, “There is no problem maybe another time” and then smile. Act as though you don’t need her and seamlessly change the topic of conversation to something else. Find an excuse to get away from her without her knowing about it. Remember, there are many fish in the sea, so don’t let her rejection weigh you down.

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